Dating online is great. There are so many options available that wouldn’t be there if you were meeting in person, say for instance as a blind date. Dating is without a doubt very exciting, and finding someone through a chat room can be great fun. What can be very difficult to discern online is whether someone actually likes you or not. People online in chat rooms can be whoever they like so trying to figure out the truth from fiction can be hard. You may think this is common sense, but it’s surprising how many people fail to see the “Doctor” they’ve been chatting to in the chat room isn’t really a doctor at all – scary, I know. Sometimes as well the feeling isn’t mutual and there is a degree of making the person fit, without knowing them. As it goes this isn’t always the case, a chat room should be used as the initial steps in finding someone, if that’s what you’re after.
There are some signs that make it quite clear if someone really does like you, or not.
- The person you’ve been chatting to messages you constantly when you’re online or during the day, sometimes at very random times too. In this case it’s a good idea to “play it cool”.
- Occasional messaging is “cute” – for instance messaging someone in the morning to say have a great day, etc.
- Drunk texting is kind of nice, providing it’s a nice message, for instance they’re thinking about you.
Conversation in the chat room is highly important and rather than just asking if you have a webcam or not it can go a lot further asking someone where they’re from or are they busy at the moment. It’s important to listen to what the person says, engaging in conversation is an art. It’s always a good idea to remember previous conversations with the person. If someone really likes you they will want to know a lot more about your life. Be careful divulging such information and make sure you build a solid foundation of trust before doing so. Some people won’t ask as many questions in a chat room but may find it easier using a webcam or phone call. Text chatting can take a long time to get to know someone but it’s a great start and can be done from the comfort of your own home, sofa, or bedroom.
Be careful not to dominate a conversation. I’ve already mentioned that chatting online is a two way conversation and an art. The conversation should run both ways. If you enjoy chatting online then don’t forget to check out our chat room. Don’t forget to check out how a chat room works and always remember you are more important!